I want you to imagine that as you read this blog post, the O’Jays For the Love of Money is playing. Hearing that song will either cause a sensation to move or it will make you a little uncomfortable.

If you feel the latter, it doesn’t have to be that way.

This week at Incredible Factor TV, we are taking a question from Susan:

“Hi Darnyelle, I have heard that my business growth will be stalled until I shift my relationship with money and while that seems easy, hopefully you can see why I’m struggling with it. Can you share some insight that will help me here?”

See my response to Susan, here:

As I share in the episode, our relationship with money is flowered by our money back-story. And, what holds us back are the stories we tell ourselves. So, depending on the story you’re telling yourself, money is either a friend or foe. But I want to show you how to make money your honey so that you can see money for what it really is and make the shift so that your business can grow at the level you crave:

Step 1: Decide how much money you want. I don’t want you thinking in terms of a lump sum. I want you thinking in terms of the amount of money you want per year, per month, per week to flow into your life through your business. Be sure to be thinking in terms of flow and do not let you mind gravitate to the how – don’t concern yourself with how you’re going to make it happen. The truth is the how is not your concern. You have to set the intention and take the action in the flow to receive all that you want.

Step 2: Decide what the money will be used for/spent on. The reason this is important is because when you set an intention for the money coming into your life, it allows the universe to rearrange itself to give you what you’re wanting. For example, if you’re wanting to generate $20,000 per month in revenue in your business so that you can hire a team, buy a new home and travel with your family, this will help you to stay focused on what you’re wanting so that you can bring it into your life experience.

Step 3: Identify the source of your money back-story and your blocks around money. The truth is, you cannot conquer what you are unwilling to confront. So by going as far back as you can remember and realizing the first interaction you can recollect about money, you can start to piece together how that interaction has flowered you today as an adult. In my own story, money was always an elusive thing that there was just not enough of. My mom and dad fought about it, they yelled because of the lack of it and I that is what started my relationship with money. It wasn’t until I was nearly 30 years old, that I realized that their relationship didn’t have to be my relationship and I started to establish a new loving, fulfilling relationship with money. I had to identify the blocks and limiting beliefs and challenge them so that I could clear the blocks. And when I did, everything began to change.

Step 4: Cast the vision of what you desire your relationship with money to be like and clear the blocks that you have around money. I like to have clients use their most loving relationship as a barometer. I like to have them recount the feelings they have about that person. Typically, they will respond that they are supportive, would do anything for them, always there when they need them and other life-affirming feelings about their loved one. I then ask them to consider what would happen if they and money had a relationship that mirrored their most loving one. And this starts them to visualize what is possible for them and money. Now, this exercise along won’t deepen your shift, but it will start the process of visualization in a powerful way to experience a new result. Unfortunately, your brain is wired to think negatively, which is why visioning positive reactions and a relationship with money is the beginning of the shift. Now, to clear those blocks you may need the help of a coach. It can be challenging to do this on your own. As you cast your vision, you’ll realize that money and resources are all around you and you just have to shift to bring it to you!

Step 5: Move via action in the direction of the shift you’re wanting. If you can begin to see money for what it really is: an energy, you’ll be able to live into the shift and the new relationship that you’re wanting. As with anything in the universe, the power we give it determines the way it shows up for us. And, we have to learn how to detach the power and believe that in abundance we can have anything we want. One of my favorite ways to do this is to every single day, write down 5 ways that you can increase your cash flow. At the end of 21 days you’ll have 105 ways that you can bring more money into your life.

It’s really about getting into alignment. And that alignment is the key to positioning your life and business for growth and results you can be proud of.

So now, I want to hear from you. What’s your two cents? Is your business growth stifled by your relationship with money? What do you have to add to the conversation?


©2017 by Darnyelle A. Jervey. All Rights Reserved. Darnyelle A. Jervey, MBA, The Incredible Factor Business Optimization Coach and Mentor, is the founder of Incredible One Enterprises®, Incredible Factor University® and the Leverage Your Incredible Factor System®, a proven step-by-step program so you experience financial and spiritual abundance in your life because of your business. For more information and a FREE audio CD “7 Critical Mistakes Even Smart Entrepreneurs Must Avoid for Clients, Connection and Cash Flow!” just fill out the form below.